When YOU get an invitation in the mail (wedding, dinner party etc) do u assume your kids are invited too?
In this scenario, the invitation is addressed to you and your spouse. You are the only ones named on the envelope.
Even if it is to a cocktail party, do you still assume your kids are welcome?
Note: I'm not asking because I don't know. I'm asking b/c I have a lot of cocktail and dinner parties. I'm always surprised by the number of people who DON'T know and show up with their kids!
Sorry but the first answer is so wrong!!! It inspired me to answer. You cannot assume that children are invited.
If the envelope was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. and Family then the children are included.
If not, it is limited to the people on the envelope. If inviting a single person, the envelope might read Miss Jones and Guest. That means she can bring a guest but NOT children.
Adult only weddings are becoming more popular and I have been to more and more of them.
Leave the kids home with Grandmother and enjoy yourselves. Why on Earth would you want to take children to an adult cocktail party and wedding anyway? This is an opportunity for you two to have some fun without worrying about the kids enjoying themselves.
Don't be offended at all by this at all. It is the Wedding couple's choice, not yours. It is their wedding and they get to have it anyway they want.
Also the cost factor might be a reason as most caterers don't have a child's plate price, just per person.
Enjoy their special day and get a babysitter!
no– no mention of kids means no kids allowed.
no never assume your kids are invited usually things like this are adult events and you should find a sitter
If your children were invited, they should have been included in the invitation. I also disagree with the suggestion to call your hostess (unless they are a very close friend). To call the hostess and ask if the kids are invited puts them in a difficult position. It seems rude to say no even though it's not a kid event. If you show up and they ask where the kids are, kindly point out the oversight in the invitation (doing so without embarrassing the hostess), and perhaps they will be better informed the next time as to proper etiquette.
No..I dont assume the kids are invited. If they were, it would include "and family" on the envelope.
Call the person hosting the party and ask.
I assume it's adults only unless it says "and family" or lists the kids or something. With weddings, I'm from a small town and things aren't formal like that, so kids are almost always invited, but if I wasn't sure I wouldn't just show up with my kids. I would call the host and ask.
The people invited on the invitation, are the people invited…ONLY. I'm surprised people would bring their children to an " adults " party. A cocktail party is no place for children. I guess since you have some friends that can't grasp this idea, have printed on your invitations " adults only " This seems so unnecessary, but I guess that's what you have to do.
Usually they invite the whole family, but sometimes maybe only the adults
Most people don't know this, but the only ones invited are the people who's name's are on the envelope, kids…..no unless it says Mr. and Mrs. So and So and children .!!!!!!!!
NO! Only the people to whom the invitation is addressed are invited. If in doubt, call ahead of time and ask for clarification. Don't just assume and show up with children in tow.
no, dont asume, cuz if the kids arent invited then they would be the only ones there and it would be very boring for them…sdo i suggest to not bring them.
Unless the invite mentions "and family" always assume only you and your spouse are invited.
You can always call the hosts and ask if children are allowed.
No, do not ever assume that children are invited. For my wedding I put "adult reception at…" on the invitations. I found out how to word it acceptably on a bridal etiquette website. We made our reception age 16 and over, and the teens that were invited were named on their parents invitations. In my opinion, children should never be around when there is alcohol involved, as there is at most wedding and, well duh, cocktail parties! We threw a 30th birthday party for me and explicitly printed on the invites that it was an adult party, no kids invited. One of my friends and her husband brought their 2 and 4 year old kids. Not only was I pissed off beyond belief but since there were no other kids there they were cranky and bored with nothing to do but watch half of us stumble around drunk. There is a place and time for family parties and it sucks, but sometimes your kids aren't wanted around!
Absolutely not…. If children are invited I would expect it to be to the Smith family (for informal) and for a wedding or more formal where there may be an inner and outer envelope, on the inner envelope it would say the children's name. The bride and groom or hosts would mention the kids if they wanted them there.
NO NO NO !!! Never assume that anyone other than yourself is invited unless the invitation says and guest or and family, etc. Some people like small weddings or they have only planned the meal/reception for a certain number of people. I have been to several weddings lately where children where NOT allowed. Also, many dinner parties have alcohol and not everyone is comfortable with children being around when people are drinking. Your best bet is to call these people and ask them or ask someone else who is going if they know.
No kids! If children were also invited, they are to put Mr. and Mrs. Doe, and Family. My husband and I did not want children at our wedding, and we were clear about inviting the Mr. and Mrs., not the family.
Or, if the couple getting married are close to you, you should just ask them. A good way to ask is "Is the wedding too formal for children?" or "Will there be childcare?" It's comfortable for you to ask, and comfortable for them to answer.
Also, if they say no children, please dont' take it personal. With our wedding, there was a group of kids we did NOT want there, so we just didn't invite ANY children. No offense to those parents, but we couldn't just tell one family not to bring their kids, only to see other people's kids there.
No, not unless it is addressed to Mr & Mrs…. and Family
When I am invited to anything with a mailed invitation, I look to see who it is addressed to specifically. In most cases, the invitiation will indicate who is invited (your name plus "guest") and I would never assume that children are invited unless it is specified. When you RSVP (and I would assume that you would), you can ask if they are including the children, if you are uncertain. I tend to think that children are normally excluded from weddings, dinner parties, etc. that are more for adults. (Each wedding plate is usually quite costly, as well and children tend to be bored at these type of events.)
I was just the maid of honor in my sisters wedding and when we did the invitations we asked a similar question. We only really wanted to invite kids within our family and not everyones kids. They said it was simple if you want to invite the family the invitation would read for example: either – To the Reynolds Family. or Jeff Reynolds and Family. In this situation entire family kids and all our invited. If you do not want kids invited it would be addressed as follows: Jeff & Errin Reynolds in this situation just Jeff and his spouse were invited not the children. So I would assume, and this is only an assumption based of our invitations we sent out. If it was addressed to just you and spouse, then no the kids were not invited. I hope that was helpful, sorry for rambling.
it depends on the occasion & wording.
-if it is Mr. & Mrs Doe. then do NOT assume children are welcome. if are not sure, call the number and ask. its better to know before hand and make arrangements for the children rather than show up with kids to find out kids arent welcome.
-if it is Mr. & Mrs Doe and family. then ASSUME your children are welcome. if you still arent sure, CALL!!
when it doubt call
No, the invitation is only for those whose name is on the envelope. If kids are welcome, it will say "and family" or list the childrens' names. This is VERY straight-forward, and if the people who are invited have any doubt, they should call.
If it's not listed to Mr and Mrs and Family then it's adults only. Hire a babysitter and enjoy the night out with your spouse!
You should not assume anything. The invitation should include the phrase "and family" or "the family of" if the kids are invited too. You may get away with it though, if there's an RSVP card enclosed with the invitation. That way you are able go get back to the host with the number of people you are bringing to the party. To be on the safer side, you could call the host/hostess to ask if kids are invited to the party too.
Everyone above is correct except the first person, who clearly doesnt know what she is talking about.
If the invitation doesn't specifically say NO KIDS, then I will bring them. Most family people understand that you have to include the kids or lots of people won't show for the party.
absolutely not… even the best behaved kids have bad days… which could disrupt a wedding or other type party. I would run it by the hosts.. " would you be adverse to my kids coming with me"… if you feel that it is imperative that your children accompany you.
They should say Mr. Mrs. and family.
Can't we just give a good rating to one of the answers instead of having 80 bajillion answers that are exactly the same?
Kids are not included when they are not on the invitation. You're put in a tough spot when someone shows up with kids. It is an error of etiquette on their part to assume that it is okay to bring their children with them. I might suggest that for the next 2 or 3 parties you have a babysitter on hand and let the guests that come with children that you generally don't have children at your parties, but you have provided a babysitter on this occasion. Hopefully they will get the point that children are not invited. You do, however, run the risk that guest think that a babysitter will be provided.
Yes, proper etiquette requires the bride groom, etc…to mention if no kids are allowed & under what age is not allowed. Any proper invite will adress this issue, just make sure you respond like this
# of guests=2+3kids….
Never assume! Pay attention to how the invitation is addressed. If it is addressed Mr. and Mrs, or The Smith Family, or Mr. and Mrs and Children. Better to inquire than be a burden and bring unwanted children. It should have been made clearer on the invitation.
Unless the invitation is addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family" don't assume children are invited. The correct assumption is that only the people to whom it is addressed are invited.
NO……..never assume that……even if an invite is sent to a single person if it doesn't say AND GUEST…..it means just YOU.
No; I would assume the kids are not invited, especially if the party is in the evening, or a cocktail party. A wedding invitation should be addresses to all members of the family who are invited. If it excludes the kids, chances are, the event is adult-only.
If the invite is only to u and your spouse, you never "assume" that children are invited. Only if the kids names are listed also on the invitation do you include them. If one of your children needs to attend with you, be sure to call the host/hostess and ask if it's ok first! It's part of having good manners!
I would say no the kids are not invited unless it says so in the intivation. I would maybe call and ask.
NO – the wedding invitation states who is invited. Dinner parties depend on how formal it is – if it's a casual affair, then you may be able to assume you can bring "extra" guests – if its formal, there will be place settings to consider.
Never assume you can bring your children – if there are any doubts, call the person in charge of the invitation and make a POLITE enquiry as to whether or not children are invited…and don't cause a fuss or issue an ultimatum if the answer is No.
Absolutely not. I'm getting married in 8 days and this very thing has been a nightmare for me. According to Emily Post it is inappropriate to write "no children" or such a request on the invitation. Rather, she suggests only including the names of the invited guests on the inner envelope (or the outer, if you aren't using inner ones) and passing this information through word-of-mouth. Therefore, the burden is not on the bride/host/hostess but on the guest if there is any question.
Absolutely not! If children are invited the invitation should so state.
Bert
Heck no you don't assume your kids are invited!
If they were, the invitation would be made out to Mr. & Mrs. So&So and children (or and family).
If addressed to Mr. & Mrs. So&So..it is only for
the two of you.
Absolutely not. An event that is formal enough to be announced by a mailed invitation will specify if extraneous guest or kids are invited either on the invite, or by being addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Jones and Family, Mr. and Mrs. Jones and Guest(s), or to The Jones Family. If it does not, they are not invited, and it'd be inappropriate to call the hosts and ask, because it puts them in the uncomfortable position of having to say no to a guest.